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Success Story: Man Finds Birth Mother Through Facebook Plea

on March 21, 2013 | Facebook | Comments (2)

I don’t know about you, but recently my Facebook feed has been filled with people sharing images of strangers holding hand written signs, looking for help in finding long lost loved ones or people from their past.

It’s been a wonder to me if anyone had actually had any success in this research method, until I stumbled across Bobby, a Victorian resident who had found his birth mother with the help of Facebook.

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His original photo, which garnered over 26,000 shares, led him to successfully contacting his mother, Cherry Carr.

“I’ve always known that I was adopted from my earliest memories.I’d always been encouraged by my adoptive parents to one day find my biological mother if I wanted to”

It was a long process, having starting at the Melbourne’s Department f Human Services around three years ago, but the ongoing costs to obtain certificates and travel, as well as the daily financial commitments of his own life.

“I have a mortgage, 3 kids, bills and other expenses it just seemed like a luxury to do that”, he says.

“I did try to save up but something always comes up and so there went the money. I kinda just let it take a back seat for a while.”

But after signing up for a Facebook account, Bobby was inspired to take a new approach to his search.

After seeing other people post images of themselves holding signs such as “my mum and dad say if I get a million likes I can have a puppy”, he thought he’d take the risk on the odd chance it might work.

Intentionally using his birth name on the Facebook account, he hoped it would be easier to make contact with his birth family. Then he took the picture.

“I knew that I’d possibly be making myself vulnerable to abuse and hate mail, which I received a little bit of. But I thought I just had to try.

“It was something that wasn’t gonna cost me anything. If nothing happened then at least I knew I had tried. I was so not prepared for how far it all went though”.

And within just three days, Bobby made another post – saying he had made contact with his birth mother.

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The connection was made through his aunt, who was the first of his family members to see the post.

“I have so many relatives that I’m yet to meet, but they all seem just as excited as me to do so” he says.

It’s a good outcome for Bobby who set out to simply let his birth mother that he was doing well and has had a good life with a good family.

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“I wanted to put my mum’s mind at ease and didn’t want her to be walking around with a heavy heart never knowing what happened to me” he says.

“Of course I was also hopefully of an ongoing relationship with her but it wasn’t the main reason for finding her. I was alright and I just wanted to make sure she was too”.


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  • Middle Child

    Newcastle NSW Hospital was one of the worst – I had our eldest there in 1974 – towards the end of the kidnapping (not forced adoption – it was child stealing) We chose to be unmarried – you know rebelling against the universe and all that. I was put into an unmarried mother’s ward and came close to having our beautiful baby taken – I had to go and find her in the hospital secreted in a whole other area – never any explanation – I saw a drugged up mum sign over her baby and cry for hours after – every day I thank the powers that be that I was suspicious of all their talk and excuses and went to find her – when I found her – the nurses there said they had no idea why she had been bought there as it was the humidicrib area – and her crib was the only one open and unattached to air etc she was full term and perfectly healthy and beautiful – she still is at 38 and we have had all those years to know and love her …so after finding her I sat there and fed her – and they left me alone after that…It breaks my heart to imagine what could have been and to know that for too many it was. I personally believe that all those complicit in stealing those children should have to face kidnapping charges – no matter who they are. Just because they thought it was right doesn’t mean it was. The mum and dad are the only ones to have that right. I can not imagine our little family without Melissa – and not to have known and loved her brings tears to even think about. But so must those who had their children stolen illegally and many of those who did that are probably not much older than I am today… I can’t tell you how angry their crimes against the family make me.

  • Middle Child

    Newcastle NSW Hospital was one of the worst – I had our eldest there in 1974 – towards the end of the kidnapping (not forced adoption – it was child stealing) We chose to be unmarried – you know rebelling against the universe and all that. I was put into an unmarried mother’s ward and came close to having our beautiful baby taken – I had to go and find her in the hospital secreted in a whole other area – never any explanation – I saw a drugged up mum sign over her baby and cry for hours after – every day I thank the powers that be that I was suspicious of all their talk and excuses and went to find her – when I found her – the nurses there said they had no idea why she had been bought there as it was the humidicrib area – and her crib was the only one open and unattached to air etc she was full term and perfectly healthy and beautiful – she still is at 38 and we have had all those years to know and love her …so after finding her I sat there and fed her – and they left me alone after that…It breaks my heart to imagine what could have been and to know that for too many it was. I personally believe that all those complicit in stealing those children should have to face kidnapping charges – no matter who they are. Just because they thought it was right doesn’t mean it was. The mum and dad are the only ones to have that right. I can not imagine our little family without Melissa – and not to have known and loved her brings tears to even think about. But so must those who had their children stolen illegally and many of those who did that are probably not much older than I am today… I can’t tell you how angry their crimes against the family make me.











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